[Bishop's Fantasy?]
This is MY story and I'm sticking to it!Pre-emptive Strike
2007-12-12
I was thinking I'd be filing for divorce after the first of the year. Get the holidays out of the way and just take the plunge. My husband told me tonight that he has an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow morning and will be taking care of that part of things himself. He said the lawyer could work with both of us (I'm not too sold on that) and we'll just get it taken care of. We had a fairly reasonable conversation - no shouting or slamming doors. Just simple, practical questions from me and direct, unemotional answers from him. I don't know if this is the calm before the storm or an indication of things to come. Either way, I'll enjoy it for what it is now and worry about tomorrow when it comes.
I'm not thrilled over this news. It gives me no great happiness to think about the past 13 years and how everything is about to change (despite how bad things have been), but I'd be a liar if I said I don't feel some semblance of relief. I'm sure I'll do some crying when this all sinks in. I don't imagine the moment when I get served with papers will be a celebratory occasion. Even still, if this stops us from hurting each other or our kids anymore, then it's the right course of action.
piper (2007-12-13)
Witqueen gave good advice...don't let divorce be the "screwing you get for the screwing you got"...vulgar, yes, but don't know a better way to say it...the state has a tendency to award the kids to the mother...if that's what you want (I suspect it is) best you have your own rep...especially in the light of the recent Bishop affair, on which he will trade...best wishes***Thor
Witqueen (2007-12-12)
My advice? Get your own lawyer. Property settlement is one thing, but kids are another. He'll go for the jugular, just to prove he can. You're one smart cookie, and he can't get past yesterday, and still sees you as that woman of 13 years ago. My oh my, if he only read your posts, and realized just how much you've changed and grown, even in this past year. :-)
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